When the Old You Tries to Make a Comeback

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on some of the characteristics I had when I was younger. Back then, my temper was short, and my patience? Even shorter—especially when it came to aggressive behavior (or what I perceived as aggression) toward me or the people I love. If you’ve known me for more than 15 years, then you definitely remember that version of me.

But here’s the thing about growth—it allows you to look back and recognize just how far you’ve come. And when I look back, I see that growth. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still a work in progress, but I’m moving at my own pace, and I’m proud of that. Growth isn’t about perfection; it’s about evolution. It’s about acknowledging the areas where you still struggle while giving yourself grace for the journey. Because let’s be honest—if we had no areas to improve, we’d have no reason to grow.

Lately, though, I’ve felt the pull to revert back to some of those old, familiar behaviors. Not because they serve me now, but because they used to feel safe. I’m realizing that so many of those reactions were trauma responses—ways I thought I had to protect myself, to stand up for the little girl who didn’t always have someone standing up for her. And so, I created this no-nonsense, take-no-BS persona to shield her.

And let me tell you—the past couple of weeks, that old version of me has been knocking at the door, begging for a comeback. As recent as yesterday, I had to make a conscious decision: do I let her out, or do I let her go?

I chose to let her go.

I chose to bow out graciously instead of reacting. To remind myself that I don’t have to defend who I am, even when someone presents a false narrative about me. I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. The people who truly know me—the ones who belong in my life—don’t require proof. And that’s enough.

Now, I’m curious about you.

How have you grown over the years? And do you ever feel the urge to slip back into an old version of yourself? If so, what triggers it? Let’s talk about it. Drop a comment—I’d love to hear your thoughts.